Monday, July 26, 2010

What do you do, my lovely?

So, today someone asked me - what do you do when you get back home from work? I was like...huh!! what do i do? hmmm...donno...nothing...something! Gosh! never really thought about that! 
The girl who asked me was quite surprised at how wasted I was!!

Now, what does everybody/anybody do at home back from work?
When I get back I dump my stuff on the sofa, change clothes, switch on my lappie/TV and get back to mails, left over work, social networking, blogs, TV shows, news, etc. And, of course keep calling (read pestering) T to check when he gets back...and this goes on till T is back and we feel hungry. And, then I make myself really really super useful :) I heat the food that the cook made and I serve us :) That done, we both are back to our lappies, reading, watching, and yapping each other, till its time for us to go to bed... EOD...yaaawwwnnn

But, we don't really get bored. We talk, pull each other's leg, watch movies/shows, argue, have fun...but it seems one should be doing 'something' man! hmm...

I mean what do you guys do when you get back from work? Some people sound really busy and caught up and happening at home! Im curious to know what it is that people really do at home..except relax, eat, and sleep!!!

Thursday, July 8, 2010

My sins against gender stereotypes

Masood tagged me here and i need to list my sins against gender stereotypes. 

1) My favorite color is black/blue/red. Not pink. Please spare me pink. I do not like that color. Not for dresses, not for shirts, not for dupattas, not for my bedcovers, not for my curtains...nothing. Period.
2) My favorite games, which I have played a lot are rugby and baseball.
3) My favorite shows are Gadget Guru, Auto Show, Cell Guru, Tech Toyz, We the People, CSI, Seinfeld, Friends, Man vs Wild.  But, yes I must admit I love sex and the city and can watch it forever...and i can chew all of you who mock at sex and the city!
4) The RSS subscriptions on my phone & favourites on my laptop are engadget, mashable, digital inspiration, gizmodo, discovery and  news channels. I read and research on new tech stuff a lot and pass on the gyaan to hubby and friends/family when they need help buying/researching. But to keep the so called girlie spirit alive, I have a Cosmopolitan susbcription too. More than fashion, they have articles that I find so bloody hilarious :-p
5) I research and make all my investements myself in stocks/funds/real estate for the last several years.

6) Im not very fond of dressing up and putting on elaborate makeup. I have no nail polish on my nails ever and my makeup is limited to a kajal and gloss for most occasion. I've always watched in awe at the girls who spend hours on selecting and wearing those shiny clothes and putting on heavy makeup. I mean they look nice and all, but somehow I couldn't manage all that so well. Ive tried few times on my mom's /friends insistence, but have failed gladly :)
7) I can live and die in my jeans. Mom gave me 4-5 suitcases full of expensive sarees/suits for my big fat wedding, which are even now lying wrapped in the packing they came in. Haven't opened those 61 dresses in the last 4 years! With the lakhs mom spent on those clothes, I could have bought a bigger macbook than my present 13 inch or a new LED TV :(
8) My trips to the parlor are limited to 2-3 in a whole year that too when im dragged by friends/family. Just don't have the bloody patience to sit for a facial/manicure/pedicure for 3-4 hours...grrrr...boringgg...I could have chatted with T or played with my phone a bit more in that time! Android has such awesome apps for their phones :-D
9) When T and I go out together, I always end up driving, he just sits next to me like a showpiece checking mail on his blackberry, changing music, humming and generally trying to be a stud!! Men! i tell you....grrr
10) I love fixing and figuring out things. Just crash the comp or give me stuff to install or configure machines/TVs, etc...i will be lost in that for hours.
11)Im very frank/outspoken and have never really shied away from voicing my opinions and thoughts, taking my own decisions, whether somebody likes it or not. Neighbors/family would always say I am my dad's son! Dad/mom consult me/discuss things with me before they take big decisions. My brother lives with them, but my folks still discuss things with me when and where it matters for my opinion.
12) Ok, this one is funny. I eat more than many guys...Lolll...No, seriously guys in office/other friends have told me: "Maria, you have quite an appetite." In the office canteen when I order my food, the guys standing in the queue find it very amusing...sandwich, chapati/rice sabzi,/chicken, dal, juice, sometimes sweet dish/ice cream! A few days back i was out with hubby and another guy for dinner and these 2 men had finished their main course and i was just about getting done with my tandoori prawns, salad, an soup...main course still far away! Can you imagine how much they teased me! Just FYI im not obese yet- in kgs...late 50s, but getting heavy on the scale every month :-(

13) Ok, final one, I dont know how to cook. I try off and on...sometimes its yum, other times not so great! But, I really do miss my mom's cooking and want to learn some of her recipies. Ive already started my recipe book, so probably this point should soon fall out of this list :)

After all these, I hope ive not been ticked off the list of women. I do love being a woman. I do love shopping endlessly for clothes and shoes and bags. I do love gossiping with my girl friends ,the outings with girls, those giggling sessions and late night chat with dosts and cousins. And of course i love diamonds :)
Now, if you like the tag, please take it up and let me know, so I can hop over and read your sins.

Wednesday, July 7, 2010

One Bedroom Apartment

I found this in my mail today morning, and thought it was worth sharing. Food for thought for all of us in this mad materialistic cut throat world. When you have  a few minutes...

A Bitter Reality

As the dream of most parents I had acquired a degree in
Software Engineering and joined a company based in USA, the
land of braves and opportunity. When I arrived in the USA, it
was as if a dream had come true.

Here at last I was in the place where I want to be. I decided I
would be staying in this country for about 5 years in which
time I would have earned enough money to settle down in India.

My father was a government employee and after his retirement,
the only asset he could acquire was a decent one bedroom apt.
I wanted to do some thing more than him. I started feeling
homesick and lonely as the time passed. I used to call home and
speak to my parents every week using cheap international phone
cards. Two years passed, two years of fast food at McDonald's and
pizzas and 2 years watching the foreign exchange rate getting 
happy whenever the Rupee value went down.

Finally I decided to get married. Told my parents that I have
only 10 days of holidays and everything must be done within
these 10 days. I got my ticket booked in the cheapest flight.
Was jubilant and was actually enjoying hopping for gifts for
all my friends back home. If I miss anyone then there will be

After reaching home I spent home one week going through
all the photographs of girls and as the time was getting
shorter I was forced to select one candidate and get 
married in 2-3 days, as I will not get anymore holidays.

After the marriage, it was time to return to USA, after giving some
money to my parents and telling the neighbors to look after
them, we returned to USA..

My wife enjoyed this country for about two months and then she
started feeling lonely. The frequency of calling India increased 
to twice in a week sometimes 3 times a week. 
Our savings started diminishing.

After two more years we started to have kids. Two lovely kids, 
a boy and a girl. Every time I spoke to my parents, they asked
me to come to India so that they can see their grand-children.
Every year I decide to go to India... But part work part
monetary conditions prevented it. Years went by and visiting
India was a distant dream. 

Then suddenly one day I got a message that my parents
were seriously sick. I tried but I couldn't get any
holidays and thus could not go to India ...
The next message I got was my parents had
passed away and as there was no one to do t
he last rights the society members had done
whatever they could.
I was depressed. My parents had passed
away without seeing their grand children.

After couple more years passed away, much to my children's
dislike and my wife's joy we returned to India to settle down.
I started to look for a suitable property, but to my dismay my
savings were short and the property prices had gone up during
all these years. I had to return to the USA...

My wife refused to come back with me and my children refused to
stay in India... My 2 children and I returned to USA after
promising my wife I would be back for good after two years.

Time passed by, my daughter decided to get married to an
American and my son was happy living in USA... I decided that
had enough and wound-up every thing and returned to India... I
had just enough money to buy a decent 02 bedroom APT in a
well-developed locality.

Now I am 60 years old and the only time I go out of the APT is
for the routine visit to the nearby temple. My faithful wife
has also left me and gone to the holy abode.

I wonder was it worth all this?
My father, even after staying in India,
Had a house to his name and I too have
the same nothing more.

I lost my parents and children for just ONE EXTRA BEDROOM.

Looking out from the window I see a lot of children dancing.
This damned cable TV has spoiled our new generation and these
children are losing their values and culture because of it. I
get occasional cards from my children asking I am alright. Well
at least they remember me.

Now perhaps after I die it will be the neighbors again who will
be performing my last rights, God Bless them.

But the question
still remains 'was all this worth it?'
I am still searching for an answer.................!!!